Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Some Sad, Heartbreaking News

Last night, I was texting my boyfriend when he told me that his friend's cousin had just been murdered. I rarely write about my personal life or people I've lost/people that my family and friends have lost because I don't think it really belongs in my blog -plus I'm just kind of private. Anyways, I'm just so angry and confused that I had to write this down.

I don't know all the details but I'll tell you what I do know. Michel David was murdered on Friday by her ex-boyfriend, Daniel Shoemake. He basically just came by, they argued, and he shot her several times. Then he proceeded to shoot himself in his car. A million things ran through my mind after I read this story. Then I scrolled down and read the comments in response to the article and it pissed me off even more. Why the F*** are people here commenting on the reporters' lack of writing skills and gun rights when two people are dead. I just don't understand people these days. They really don't care about anyone but themselves. They read an article and focus on this stupid shit that doesn't even matter -two lives have been taken and all they care about is how the article was written?! WTF is wrong with this world.

Secondly, I keep wondering if this girl was abused (during their relationship together.) It just makes me wish that someone had done something -that someone had stepped in (if there had been any abuse.) It just makes me sick when I think of husbands/boyfriends physically or emotionally abusing their wives/girlfriends (or vice versa) -I just don't understand how you can do that to someone that you love or even once loved. It just makes me so angry because I do have people close to me who have been abused.

The guy was troubled -there's no doubt there. I just wish so badly that he hadn't taken this young girl's life as well as his own. I don't know this girl or her family personally but it breaks my heart knowing that there's a family out there hurting so badly because of this. It makes me sad that two precious lives have been wasted and for what? It just makes no sense. Time and time again, I try to convince myself that these things happen but sometimes, I just can't understand and I never will.

I think the reason that this tragedy hit so close to home is because something similar happened in my life. When I was in middle school, my school mate Elsa was murdered along with her entire family by her mother. Elsa and I weren't close friends but I knew her and she was just a really great person -she was smart and so kind to everyone around her. I remember the day that I found out she was killed, I ran into the car tearing and I said, "Mom, today was the worst day ever."

Her mother took her life, her stepfather's life, and her younger sister's life. She actually shot her little sister while cradling her in her arms and then shot herself right after. I think, what pains me the most is the fact that these people who love their daughter/husband/wife/girlfriend can do these these things and I just don't understand. To me personally, if I were to take my own life, I wouldn't want to take someone I love with me -that's insanely selfish.

Although I'm so angry with this guy Daniel as I was with Elsa's mother, I do hope that he rests in peace. I know I must sound crazy for saying that but I truly believe that people need to be forgiven. If there was just hate carried in peoples' hearts -the world would be very dark. I also hope that he's sorry for taking her life as I believe that God will forgive if you are truly sorry. I just hope and pray that Michel is resting in Heaven and that her family and friends are comforted at this time. Sorry for the rant and mixed emotions everyone -I can't exactly think straight right now.

Please pray for them and their families -I do believe that every prayer counts. You don't need to be religious or even believe in any God to pray. All that matters is what's in your heart.

19 comments:

  1. This is a terrible story, and thank you for sharing your thoughts. Incidence like this happened close to me couple times, too--one time when I was in high school (a classmate committed suicide just before AP testing and finals) and one time in college dorm (a guy came to campus looking for his gf, found her, and tried to murder her. Luckily, the police arrived in time).

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  2. Oh Kali.. hugs on your way. And I agree, people can be so ignorant with their comments on article. Zero respect towards the grieving :s

    I've been there too few years back. Friend's hubby was stabbed among two others (who died) for no reason.. my friend's hubby luckily did survive though everyone thought he wouldn't. Anyway, people were horrible and mean with their speculation and comments. Goes beyond my understanding..

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  3. Oh my god.
    That's just so horrible and so sad. :(
    My deep condolence, Kali.

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  4. So so sorry to hear this - what a crazy world we are in to be sure. Prayers for all concerned from the UK.

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  5. What a horrible story :( i hate reading about other people taking other people's lives through murder. i wish the world could be a better place :(

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  6. Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry to hear this. What an awful, shocking thing to happen. Sorry to hear about your friend in school too. Deepest condolences to you and your boyfriend

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  7. Omg hun! This is such a terrible story! My condolence goes out to them and their family! I got the shivers just reading this.:(

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  8. OMG Im so sorry. I recently lost a childhood friend last week. Ive only spoke about a lost twice on here but I deleted it. This was really well written by you & I can totally relate and understand. Im always the type to see the good in everyone or want to.-- A million things was going through my head as I was reading this. I do wonder why people take the lives of their loved ones. My aunt took her own life away over her husband b/c in Laos she was a 2ND WIFE. She also left poison in her daughters milk & luckily the baby didn't take it. She wouldve taken my baby cousin away with her =/. She has an older adoptive child too. I can imagine what her life may be like.. She's adopted & she has no idea who her biological mother is & then she lost her adoptive mom. Its very hard for my mom. Crazy thing is my aunt looks alot like my mom too.

    Anyways I don't wanna ramble on. Things happen and I think youre strong enough to stand through this. *hugs*

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  9. so sorry this is just awful :-(

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  10. So sorry to hear this, but I completely agree with you on this. I have felt the same way on numerous occasions (while hearding stories in the news, etc). We had an incident that happened in my family as well, which, I just learned of quite recently...I just couldn't believe the way people would talk about this person ... as if she weren't human. It makes me angry too, I totally understand.

    xx.

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  11. that is just very sad. its so wrong to take own life, and more wrong to take others!

    xoxo elle

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  12. I am so sorry it is so sad I don't know what is wrong with people why they take life of innocent people.I can just pray for Michel may her soul rest in peace ,yesterday I read this really shocking news A husband cut his wife's nose and fingers and then stabbed her now that poor woman is in a critical condition in a hospital I don't know what is happening to people why they are so frustrated that they do such horrible things

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  13. Hello, Kali, I am Michel's aunt, Jennifer. Thank you for writing about my niece. It is comforting to me to know that other people are feeling some part of what her family is and keeping us and my beautiful niece in their thoughts. I have been outraged, too, at the callous comments people have posted on the stories about Michel's murder, and I thank you for pointing that out as well.

    Here is an article about Michel and her relationship with Dan with quotes from my sister, her mother: http://www.10news.com/news/26124934/detail.html (You'll see some more insensitive comments on that one.)

    Dan was indeed emotionally and verbally abusive, and from stories I've heard, he bordered on being physically abusive with her, too. He was possessive and obviously obsessed with her. He must have been suffering from severe depression. I think there are times when people are suffering so much that they wish they were dead, but they don't feel they can go through with suicide, so they commit acts that they know they could not possibly live with.

    Our family is grieving, but, still, it brought me a little smile to see you remembering Michel on your blog because she loved everything you write about -- make-up, fashion, crafts. I was just at my sister's house and they were making sure she would have the right nail polish on and we were looking through all the scrapbooks she made. She was a special girl. Thank you again for your post.

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  14. Sorry, I forgot to mention -- Michel's friends and family advised her to break it off with Dan because of his treatment of her. Even Dan's parents talked to Michel's parents about how they didn't like how their son was treating Michel. Michel credited one of her dearest friends with giving her the strength to leave Dan and move on. She had started a whole new chapter in her life -- she was graduating from college and excited to begin "real life."

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  15. That's so awful! I will pray for their families and for you as well! I hope you can be comforted by those around you and the belief that people do go to a better place.

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  16. @ Jennifer de Guzman.. Jennifer, I sent you a response via email (the one listed on your site.) If you ever need anything, please let me know. And again, my deepest condolences to you and your family.

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  17. @ Everyone.. Thank you everyone for your well wishes torwards Michel and her family. Again, I did not know her -but I wanted to tell you her story and the outrage I was feeling. Thank you for keeping her and her family in your hearts.

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